Capitalism and Mental Health

Over the last 3 years, I have observed a disconcerting truth has steadily unveiled itself before my eyes – the profound toll the corporate environment exacts on people’s mental health. The ever-increasing frequency of absences and unmistakable signs of burnout pervade the atmosphere, yet acknowledgment remains elusive.

As the corporate vision charges forward relentlessly, driven by long hours, stress, and a lack of adequate support and training strategies, casualties seem inevitable. It is ironic that corporate wellbeing platforms are readily offered to employees, attempting to mask the impact of the very environment responsible for compromising their mental wellbeing.

This revelation has sparked a pressing need to confront the underlying issues head-on.

As I delved into the realms of research, an intriguing nexus between capitalism and mental health emerged, beckoning me to re-examine the intricate dynamics at play. As the exploration deepened, another formidable player made its presence known – manipulation. Together, these forces intertwine, shaping our emotional well-being in ways we may not have fully realized.

Books

Sedated: How Modern Capitalism Created our Mental Health Crisis

James Davies

Free your Mind

Laura Dodsworth and Patrick Fagan

Book – Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility key takeaways

Here are some key takeaways from the book:

  1. Narcissism is on the rise: Narcissism is a personality disorder that is characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, and a need for admiration. According to the author, narcissism is becoming more prevalent in modern society, in part due to the rise of social media and celebrity culture.

  2. Narcissism can be harmful: Narcissistic individuals often prioritize their own needs and desires over those of others, which can lead to destructive behavior and negative consequences for themselves and those around them.

  3. Narcissistic individuals often display entitlement: Narcissistic individuals often believe that they are entitled to special treatment, privileges, and attention. This sense of entitlement can lead to rude and demanding behavior.

  4. It’s important to set boundaries: The author emphasizes the importance of setting clear boundaries with narcissistic individuals. This can involve saying “no” to unreasonable requests, refusing to engage in arguments or debates, and prioritizing your own needs and well-being.

  5. Self-care is crucial: Dealing with narcissistic individuals can be emotionally draining, so it’s important to prioritize self-care. This can involve engaging in activities that bring you joy, seeking support from friends and family, and practicing mindfulness and meditation.

  6. Don’t take it personally: Narcissistic individuals often engage in rude or dismissive behavior, but it’s important to remember that this is a reflection of their own issues, not a reflection of your worth as a person.

  7. Lead by example: The author suggests that we can combat narcissism and incivility by modeling kindness, empathy, and respect in our own behavior.

Overall, “Don’t You Know Who I Am?” provides valuable insights and practical advice for navigating the challenges of dealing with narcissism, entitlement, and incivility in modern society.

Book – Carl Rogers “Becoming a Person”

Key Takeaways

  1. Self-awareness is key to personal growth: Rogers believed that becoming self-aware was an essential component of personal growth. It involves understanding your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and how they impact your relationships and interactions with others.

  2. Empathy fosters connection: Rogers emphasized the importance of empathy, or the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. He believed that empathy was crucial for building strong connections with others and promoting healthy relationships.

  3. Authenticity is crucial: Rogers believed that being authentic and genuine was crucial for personal growth and developing fulfilling relationships. He believed that when individuals are honest and true to themselves, they are more likely to experience a sense of fulfillment and connection with others.

  4. Positive regard promotes growth: According to Rogers, providing positive regard, or empathetic acceptance and respect for others, is necessary for personal growth and healthy relationships. He believed that individuals who receive positive regard from others are more likely to feel accepted and valued, which in turn fosters personal growth and wellbeing.

  5. Trust the individual’s capacity for growth: Lastly, Rogers believed that individuals have an innate capacity for growth and self-direction. He believed that people have the ability to change and grow, and that individuals should be trusted to take ownership of their own personal growth and development.

Charity Work – Giving Something Back

Over the last few years of becoming a coach, I am always looking at how to improve myself and put knowledge and skills into action and add some value to another person.

When I started my journey into the subject area of personal development it was never to profit from people’s problems but instead to embark on a new adventure, a new life stage and personal growth.

Unconsciously, I used to think that personal growth was simply just about being competent at my job, being more skilled and more knowledgeable than those around me. This was a competitive trait I harboured but it was with hindsight a very ignorant outlook on life in which I probably missed many other opportunities in life to succeed.

Since the pandemic life has seemingly become more complex, more people living in isolation, mental health issues on the rise with more support needed for people.

Volunteering work seemed to be the next natural progression in my development and see if I could contribute to the success or outcome of somebody else. My initial attempts to find the right volunteering work was difficult but after persevering I managed to take up an opportunity with SSAFA which offers support to UK military veterans.

As I had previously served as a soldier then I was more than aware of the challenges that lie ahead when you leave. As a 30 year old man leaving you feel invincible, ready to take on the world however this is no more than a false sense of security.

People leaving the military (or any organization) can suffer from a loss of identity and purpose. When making the transition from military to civilian life it can be very easy just to find yourself in the “next job” without setting time aside to decompress and shed your old skin.

Knowing and leveraging the right support when someone leaves the military is underrated, I sometimes wonder how things in my own life would of worked out differently had I been more aware of organizations like SSAFA.

Many people leaving the military can have many complex hurdles to overcome such as income, mental and physical health issues, relocation and relationship issues. When someone invests a significant period of their life to an organization leaving this behind and the people in it can be devastating.

SSAFA

I enlisted into SSAFA in 2021and I’ve been very impressed with the organization. It provides excellent support to help you become a mentor in their programme and you meet other mentors from all walks of life where you get hear of other peoples experiences.

Today I work and support people who are transitioning from the military and it is a very rewarding process

Coaching & Mentoring

As I have focused on these areas for sometime, it’s now very pleasing to be able to utilize these skills and knowledge in my volunteering work and see the benefits that mentee / coachee is receiving. Building the rapport with my mentee / coachee is key part of this process and after several sessions as the relationship develops the person starts to experience some level of transformation.

Sometimes just giving your time and listening to another person can be extremely empowering. It gives the person time and space away from what has been occurring up to the point of the meeting. They can come freely and discuss anything with me whilst only sharing what they feel they want to discuss without any judgement or pressure to find that light bulb moment

With a relaxed approached, set in the right environment and given the right support people feel empowered to explore their own thoughts, think forward, come up with solutions. The coach can stimulate this by holding up a mirror to the person and help them challenge their reality.

Final Thoughts

If you genuinely want to coach or mentor then make a difference to peoples lives volunteering is a good place to start. Like with anything in life, having skills and knowledge are only going to be useful if you can put them into practice.

Learning to be a coach in the classroom is a robotic process and although you can learn some of techniques, do coaching exercises doesn’t come close to work with people who have genuine challenges. The process of building coaching relationship takes commitment and time from both sides and over a period of time it can create outcomes.

The subtle art of corporate behaviours

All organizations have a set of guiding principles and expected behaviours to adhere to in the workplace. Organization leaders are becoming obsessed with these expected behaviours and at times policing the workforce in a way that violates the rules and values of others.

There is always the need to find a balance between what is expected in the workplace and what is acceptable to the people that contribute every day to the success of the organization.

The problem with corporate behaviours is that far too many people eagerly accept them and never seek to stop and think about how this may be designed to influence and undermine their own rules and values. There are many people who seek to promote the corporate behaviours and values continually repeating the language in team meetings, one-to-ones and also social media.

Many people are repeating corporate narratives to appear more virtuous and righteous whilst seeing how it will allow them to climb the co

Human beings have the need for certainty and connection and will often meet these needs by conforming to corporate behaviours and standards even if it means violating their own values to meet these needs.

Many employees are so focused on conforming, through compliance, to fit in with the corporate eco system they do not stop to evaluate (at all) what they are being told and simply accept the company narrative and agenda.

Corporate standards and behaviours, through messages can target ‘Functional Theories’, one of these is known as ‘Adjustment Function’. This is where we all want to increase reward and pleasure and reduce the risk and impact of pain. We pick attitudes that direct our behaviours toward pleasure and away from pain

Corporate standards and behaviours induce an adjustment function to employees. For some employees they will conform to corporate standards and behaviours to an extreme because they associate more pleasure and feel psychologically safe. However, some employees will see this as a direct assault on their own values and beliefs and they will associate more pain to conforming to someone else’s standards and behaviours.

Has Big Tech become too Big

Big Tech continues to have a huge influence on our lives, both personally and professionally and it is becoming increasingly problematic to know or have insights on our digital footprint and how this data is used and for what purpose.

Social media, web search, financial transactions all create a digital footprint

Today we have already seen how Big Tech can use data to try and influence politics, interfere with free speech and push its own agenda on may topics

Joe Rogan + Mark Zuckerberg
Cambridge Analytics

Before the pandemic, companies started to look at digital transformation to see how they could take advantage of the marketplace and become more competitive.

Start-up companies could take advantage of these new technologies and philosophy and disrupt the market and gain a competitive edge in a short period of time. This has had an an impact on economic, social and democratic impact.

Google, Facebook, Amazon – The rise of the mega-corporations | DW Documentary
Uber whistleblower

I myself, in 2017, found myself in a financial services company that was undergoing a digital transformation project which failed and caused that specific area of the business to fold.

In essence, this was not an IT failure, but years of neglect, corruption, coupled by an outdated business model and poor leadership

Today companies are moving at speed towards the cloud. Competitive edge, following trends (with little alternative) attracting and retaining staff are all part of organizational motivation and pressures companies face in order to gain a competitive edge. Many organizations simply have no choice and only have a choice of which vendor or product you either like or dislike the most.

As companies enter this space and take advantage of these digital technologies, they are naturally sceptical, cynical and treat each interaction with suspicion and scrutinize every recommendation, advisory or action that is discussed.

This is not a surprise, the first reality that most companies become acutely aware of is when they have lost control of some area of their business to the provider. This may simply be because they have to interact with the provider over issues they can no longer investigate themselves.

The second reality is when companies find out that the service provider is not willing to share all information about their service or product which can also lead to uncertainty, anxiety, impact judgement and decision making.

Longer term, when a significant part of the world’s economy is hosted with the big Tech companies, what can we expect?

We have already seen evidence of Big Tech influence information, politics and canceling those who do not fit with their own agenda and narratives.

Would it be impossible to think, not too far into the future, that if a company in any way does not comply with some form of regulation or does not represent the values of the provider they will have some sanctions applied to them or taken offline?

My opinion may seem cynical and unrealistic to most but the warning signs have already been for many years now. Big Tech companies along with globalists intend to reshape the world we live in today and are pushing ahead at an unprecedented rate.

The pandemic was the perfect opportunity for the Big Tech companies. This has allowed them to accelerate the use of digital adoption, increase their influence on society and enslave consumers to new norms.

As we move through, what will be an uncertain future, we wait to see how the world is further reshaped. For better or worse, who will be the winners and losers and what will the next innovations be and their innovators.

The Dark Triad

Here is short video I found that gives a simple but effective overview of the different personality traits of the dark triad

  • Narcissism
  • Machiavellianism
  • Psychopathy

This is to draw your attention to these personality traits so that you can be more aware of why people behave in the way that they do. This can help develop coping strategies once you understand these personality traits.

The 10 Commandments for a Coach

  1. Do no harm
  2. Have confidence
  3. Commit yourself heart and soul to your approach
  4. Feed the hope of your coachee
  5. Consider the coaching situation from your coachee’s perspective
  6. Work on your coaching relationship
  7. If you don’t “click” find a replacement coach
  8. Look after yourself
  9. Try to stay fresh and unbiased
  10. Don’t worry too much about the specific things you are doing
References
~ de Haan 2008

NLP Communication Model

NLP is a model of how we communicate with ourselves and others based on the information we receive from the external world. Each person will interpret and experience the this differently according to our internal filters

As human beings when we receive this information when will do the following automatically:

  1. Deletion

Deletion occurs when we selectively pay attention to specific aspects of our experience and not others. We may even overlook or omit others. Without deletion, the human psyche would be faced with way too much information. The concept of deletion helps us cope in a world where we are constantly overloaded with information.

2. Distortion

Distortion occurs when we misrepresent reality by making a shift in our experience of sensory data. In Indian philosophy, there is a well-known story of distortion with the rope and snake analogy. In the story, a man is walking along the road when he sees what he thinks is a snake. Upon further inspection, he realises it is really only a piece of rope

3. Generalization

Finally, comes the idea of generalisation. This occurs when we form a global conclusion based on only one or two experiences. You may even know someone who has one experience and forms an opinion about all similar experiences? 

Generalisation is one of the ways in which we learn. We take in information and draw broad overall conclusions about the meaning.

So, the real question is, when two people have the same stimulus, why do they not have the same response? The answer is because we delete, distort, and generalise the information from the outside that comes in from our senses based on one of five filters. The filters of the NLP communication model are:

  1. Meta programs
  2. Belief systems
  3. Values
  4. Decisions
  5. Memories

Metaprograms

The first of the NLP filters is something known as the Meta program. Knowing someone’s Meta program can help you clearly and closely predict people’s states, and therefore predict their actions and behaviours. One important thing to note about Meta programs is they are not good or bad; they are just the way someone handles information.

Beliefs

The next filter is beliefs. Beliefs are those generalisations about how the world is. Beliefs are the assumptions that we have about the way the world is that either create or deny personal power to us.

Values

Values are what people typically move toward or away from. They are basically our attractions or repulsions in life. They are our deep, unconscious belief systems about what’s important, and our values can change with context too.

Decisions

The fifth filter is the decisions that we have made in the past. Decisions may create new beliefs or they may just affect our perceptions through time. The problem with many decisions is that they were either made either unconsciously or at a very early age and are forgotten. However, the effect is still there.

Memories

The fourth filter is our memories. In fact, a number of psychologists say that the present plays a very small part in our behaviour. Some psychologists believe that as we get older, our reactions in the present are more and more just reactions to gestalts or collections of memories that are organised in a certain way of past memories.

‘To effectively communicate, we must realise that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.’
Tony Robnins Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement.

My Book Shelf

Here is a list of books I have read in the last 5-6 years that may be of interest to you.

A fantastic read from Tony Robbins that I have read a couple of times. The underlying concepts in the book are on NLP. It is a simple yet very powerful read that will take you on a journey of self-discovery and how you can empower yourself to take action and make some personal improvements

This is the follow up to “Unlimited Power”. A brilliant book that is also incredibly immersive

The first personal development book I read. It’s a great book that teaches you how to analyse and embrace fear and face it.

First published in 1959, David J Schwartz’s classic teachings are as powerful today as they were then. Practical, empowering and hugely engaging, this book will not only inspire you, but it will also give you the tools to change your life for the better

Great book for coaches and has a strong focus on how to question effectively instead of giving advice. One of the coaching principles is that people have the resources to resolve problems themselves. The coach’s questioning helps the client find the answers.

Recognise the Need for Growth and Change

I’ve always wondered what makes people change job in a relatively small period of time and why the change involves taking a similar role at a different company?

This was something I also have participated in during my technology career for various reasons which include the following:

  • Opportunity

Sometimes the opportunity being offered does not meet your expectations

  • People

People dynamics and working relationships are a key part of being successful. It is very hard to be successful without the contributions of others. When the chemistry between people and teams is toxic it often ends with a few casualties with short term retention of staff.

  • Politics

Conflicting interests within departments or an organization can quickly create silos and a lack of co-operation.

  • Reward & Recognition

One of our most basic requirements in the workplace is to be valued, recognised and rewarded according to our efforts and accomplishments. Sometimes, our ego can get in the way of these basic needs where we seek the need for ‘significance’

  • Burnout

Burnout is not uncommon and sometimes we need to change something in order to regain balance and perspective about our life. Job or role changes do not necessarily mean the grass is greener on the other side so take time to pause and reflect and make a rational decision about your future

  • Status

More people today have some integration with social media, and this creates a level of peer pressure to appear more virtuous, driven and successful. This is often a false reality and is misunderstood about what it means to be fulfilled in life.

  • Personal Growth

It is a natural part of life to grow and sometimes we outgrow a role, job or association with an organisation or even people. This can feel uncomfortable especially if we are not consciously aware of the change that is happening.

I became more consciously aware of my own actions when I started seeing similar patterns on social media platforms like LinkedIn. I observed many people changing the company frequently for the same job roles and I often considered the following things:

  • Is this person truly fulfilled with what they are doing?
  • Is the pursuit of the job opportunity more exciting than the actual job?
  • Is the person chasing status?
  • Is this person seeking approval from who they perceive their peers to be?

Reinvention

When we feel like we are ‘stuck’ or are no longer fulfilled we need to look at how to evolve and re-invent ourselves to regain a sense of meaning or purpose in our lives. We need to take control of this process and do something to reshape the landscape of our life.

It is often visible to observe people in the workplace who no longer motivated by their work, lack passion or have natural energy. People often become frustrated in their working environment and have a range of emotions that they may not fully understand and become unresourceful.

There is nothing wrong with this, this can be for many a natural occurrence in life based on your life stage and circumstances. The key point is to recognize the emotions we experience as a call to action. The emotion is telling us something if we listen carefully.

Instead of getting frustrated by the working environment and feeling that it controls you, take some action by asking yourself some empowering questions:

  1. What type of work would give me meaning and purpose?
  2. What decisions could I make that can reshape my life?
  3. In my existing role, can I make contributions to the success of others?
  4. What emotions do I experience and why?
  5. What is holding me back making a change?

When we take action to change ourselves everything, we experience also changes based on the decisions we make.

I have added some resources below:

Books

The Status Game – Will Storr

Selfie – Will Storr

Video

Emotional Intelligence – Part 1

What is Emotional Intelligence?

“The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.”

Emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success

A quick, but by no means a comprehensive coverage of the subject but this should give some insights into the mind and emotional intelligence.

EI is the balance mainly between 2 types of intelligence:

  1. Interpersonal Intelligence:

    This is based on how well we interact with others, build relationships and communicate effectively with people at different levels.
  2. Intrapersonal Intelligence

    This is an understanding and an appreciation of yourself and an overall self-awareness of your emotional and behavioural states.

There are several other types of intelligence that will influence EI:

Existential Intelligence
Kinaesthetic Intelligence
Linguistic Intelligence
Logical-Mathematical Intelligence
Musical Intelligence
Naturalist Intelligence
Spatial Intelligence

Feeling vs Thinking vs Storage Brain

Our brain in simple terms, is divided up into 3 areas

  1. The Feeling mind which is also known as the limbic system and is responsible for our emotional states
  2. The Thinking mind is where your personality is stored and is the logical area of the brain
  3. The Storage area is everything that has been learned or retained since birth

Classic Conditioning

Classic conditioning is the process of how the brain naturally responds to stimulus and based on the repetition of the outcome that happens as a direct result.

Operant Conditioning

Operant conditioning occurs when behavioural patterns are reinforced through rewards (dopamine) or weakened due to a negative consequence. This may depend on how often conditioning is occurs and how it is being reinforced.

Emotional Hijacking

Emotional hijacking is where the amygdala responds to stimulus, overriding the thinking or logical part of the brain. The amygdala is emotional and has some emotional memories attached. The hijacking can occur for a number of reasons. We may stored, faulty experiences, memories or belief systems. Specific types of stimulus can trigger these previous experiences, memories or learned belief systems that may not actually be the reality.

Neurotransmitters

Neurotransmitters are chemical messengers in the body that transmit signals from nerve cells. There are 3 common neurotransmitters with specific functions.

  1. Dopamine is used in the process of motivational behaviour and behavioural enforcement. Dopamine is often referred to as a repeat and reward behaviour and can be highly addictive
  2. Serotonin is responsible for emotional and some behavioural states
  3. Noradrenaline is used by the body to respond to stress to include danger, alertness, vigilance, arousal or a perceived type of emergency. This sharply focuses our attention to the person, situation or environment

See the following videos from Simon Sinek on neurotransmitters and how this affects mental health

Simon Sinek: We’ve raised a generation on dopamine
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEpogM_fxsQ

Simon Sinek – The Good Life Chemistry
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wJoeSXuD6I&t=75s

Enhancing your Reading Experience

I love learning, but I had to become aware of my primary learning style. I’ve always appreciated reading books however I often found it hard work sitting down and trying to read books cover to cover so I looked at some alternative options to improve the experience

Tips

Audiobooks

I like using audiobooks, I can simply do this anytime I’m in the car, doing those necessary but uninspiring tasks around the house. This was a great way to accelerate my knowledge, I can then choose to focus on a specific area of research if something resonates with me.

There are many options today for Audiobooks and also options for using Audio even if the book or text does not come in audio format.

Options

Microsoft Edge Browser:

The Edge Browser comes with surprisingly good natural voice that is directly built in and can be used with quite a number of websites

You can use the voice functionality with both the existing web page or you can use the immersive reader that is built in to make the text feel more like a book.

Immersive Reader and Read aloud

Google Play Books:

  1. If you haven’t already, turn on TalkBack.
  2. Open Play Books Play Books.
    1. If you already have the book, find it in the “Library” or “Home” screens.
    2. If you don’t have the book, search for it at the top of the “Home” screen, then pick a result and download the book.
  3. Open the book.
  4. Tap the screen, then double-tap to enter skim mode.
  5. Select More More and then Read aloud.
    • To move through the text on a page, swipe.
    • To flip pages, two-finger swipe left or right.

Reference

These 2 options have significantly enhanced my ability to immerse myself in books to read at an incredible speed.

Digital Books

One of the reasons I love digital books is that I can highlight and make notes in the book and I can then reference them at a later date. This is great especially is something resonates with you.

I hope these tips help you

Tony Robbins Personal Power II

A couple of years ago I was given one of Tony Robbins’ audio programs, Personal Power II. This was received when the in-person UPW event was cancelled in April 2020 and was replaced with a virtual offering the following year.

This is a fantastic program if you are interested in taking your first steps into the world of personal development.

Personal development consists of activities that develop a person’s capabilities and potential, build human capital, facilitate employability, and enhance quality of life and the realization of dreams and aspirations.[1][better source needed] Personal development may take place over the course of an individual’s entire lifespan and is not limited to one stage of a person’s life. It can include official and informal actions for developing others in roles such as teacher, guide, counselor, manager, coach, or mentor, and it is not restricted to self-help. When personal development takes place in the context of institutions, it refers to the methods, programs, tools, techniques, and assessment systems offered to support positive adult development at the individual level in organizations

The concepts of this program are incredibly simply, addictive and incredibly effective. The program is designed to be taken over 30 days and each day has multiple sections but are no longer that 15 minutes. This layout ensures even people with the busiest of schedules can adopt an approach that will allow them to digest this material and give you some useful insights and perspectives.

Key Takeaways

Pain vs Pleasure

Pain and pleasure are the guiding forces of our lives
People will do more to avoid pain then gain pleasure

Role Models

Identify people who are already getting the results you want and find out how they achieve this by modelling.

Sensory Acuity

When you are looking to create an outcome or result be aware of what is not working and change your approach until you get the result you want.

Role models are people who are

Neuro Associative Conditioning

Neuro association defines our behaviour.
This is when we link meaning to a particular behaviour and this defines if we try to avoid pain or gain pleasure.

Examples:

Losing weight – Some people may associate pain to losing weight because this will mean giving up specific food or working out more

Some people however will associate more pain to staying over weight and will take action to make themselves healthier

Career Change – Some people will associate more pain to change career because they may need to seek new qualifications, make sacrifice existing commitments to focus on changing career.

Some people however will associate more pain to staying in the existing career then changing

What stops people following through?

Fear stops people following through and as they associate failure and rejection or believe it’s too much hassle or not a good use of time.

Learning how to change our associations to what we link pain and pleasure is key to how we define our lives.

There are a number of audio programs that Tony Robbins has published

If you have not done this program, I hope this may of given you a small insight.

The Knowledge Industry and Personal Branding


This year I was very privileged to have been in the company of a person with terrific business skills and an entrepreneurial mindset who is doing incredible things in their life, work and business.

When the word “entrepreneur” is used, we often think of some of the very successful people like Elon Musk or Richard Branson but these people are generally outside of our proximity so it was good to have got some knowledge and insights from an aspiring entrepreneur.

I was introduced to the concept of the Knowledge Industry and Personal Branding. I quickly started reading books, participating in some courses in preparation to do Project Next, hopefully in 2022

Below are some courses and books I have recently completed as part of some of my preparation to doing Project Next.

Pluralsight

These courses below should give you a good introduction on business and personal branding. Pluralsight requires a paid subscription to access these courses

Business Basics
Developing Your Personal Brand
Creating and Selling a Digital Product

Books

I’ve listened to the books below on audio during the last month, they are insightful, full of simple but effective strategies for anyone that wants to start building their personal brand

The Underdog Advantage
Millionaire Success Habits
Think Big: Make It Happen in Business and Life
The Magic of Thinking Big

Personal Branding

Here are some great tools below to build visuals for your social media and personal brand, there is a mix of free and paid offerings

Canva
Unsplash
Pexels

I hope these tools and courses help

Coaching Series – Part 1


Over the last couple of years I’ve taken an interest in coaching and mentoring and becoming engaged with some continuous professional development (CPD) certification with some topics on Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Coaching & Mentoring and some aspects of Mental Health.

I’ve had a strong focus on technology for the last 20 years and invested (and still do) a lot of time and dedication to continually develop in this area, which is challenging because everything changes all the time. If you speak to anyone in the industry they will probably tell you how tough it is with the continuous evolution and a daily level of uncertainty about which challenge your organization may be presented with. You might be just trying to keep the lights on or embracing new technology to keep ahead of your competitors.

I was introduced to NLP a few years ago and some aspects of it were intriguing and insightful although not every aspect of the mechanics resonated with me personally. This eventually led to discovering Tony Robbins and reading his books, listening to his audio programs and content available on YouTube. I wouldn’t go as far to say “life changing”…..well certainly not yet, but it has given me some new perspectives and also some renewed energy and passion for a subject I would simply of never considered as being particularly useful.

NLP is referred to as the “psychology of excellence” and can be used as a tool for personal development amongst some other uses although it is debated how useful some of the strategies and techniques are. Some of areas of the training are interesting, such as how a person’s perception of the world is shaped by their experiences and how it creates a “mental map“. This will be different for each person and highlight that our perceptions are often not reality, also known as “the map is not the territory“, see the links below:

What Is NLP? | Neuro Linguistic Programming | NLP Academy

NLP Communication Models

Since taking some of the CPD courses on the Center of Excellence I’ve then become more interested in the psychology aspects and decided to invest more time into learning and developing counselling and coaching skills as part of my own personal development. Some of the training programs I am currently undertaking are as follows:

Personal Power II
A core audio program delivered by Tony Robbins

Unleash the Power Within (UPW)
Due to COVID, I’ve only got the option to currently do this as a virtual event but the coaching discussions should be quite enlightening.

RMT Core 100 Training

This a life coaching course that has been developed by a number of coaches. There are 100’s of lectures and coaching videos plus live coaching calls and practice sessions. You also get benefits such as a coach acceleration course and resources to help you get started as a coach. Most of the materials are available for life, the live sessions only for 6 months. There is no time limit on the course and with a college degree you can be awarded a BCC

I’ll be adding some more blogs on coaching and mentoring as I start to get more insights to share.

Books

Unleash the Power Within (Virtual)


3rd – 6th June 2021

I was due to attend UPW in April 2020, it was cancelled due to COVID-19. Just over a year later and there was an opportunity to do this virtually before attending in person

I have been studying Tony Robbins work for the last 3 1/2 years and taken up a number of personal development courses as a direct result. I researched the event before attending, Tony is not present for all 4 days and his other coaches will participate who are all good, some people are left a little disappointed when they find out after joining.

The event takes place over 4 days with around 54 hours of personal development training with numerous coaches, these were advertised to include the following:

Tony Robbins
Scott Harris
Joseph McClendon III
Karissa “KK” Kouchis
Brian Bradley
Todd Hartley
Dean Graziosi
Nick Santonastasso
Anthony William
Siri Lindley
Master Stephen Co

It’s very easy to become focused or obsessed with one area of your life and subconsciously neglect others. Tony’s work, teaching and materials gives you a good awareness of other areas of your life and how to address these and make a difference by taking action.

The events are known for creating lots of energy and getting yourself into a peak state. The psychology behind this is to become more empowered, make decisions and take action to improve some quality of your life in one of the following areas


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Reference:
https://gapmap.tonyrobbins.com/

The format online is well presented and managed very well. One of the immense benefits of doing this online is that you connect with many people over the globe in different time zones. The virtual experience is immersive and connected and with the virtual experience many people have involved their families into the event which makes for a more inclusive event and potentially not something that was thought of previously.

The first day at UPW is a day with Tony for about 12.5 hours. If you’ve studied his materials, trainings and books then you will be hugely familiar with everything he talks about during the first day.

As part of the course events you are sent a workbook and materials for the 4 days. It’s not absolutely necessary to use them you just need something to write on and have lots of spirit as you’ll be on your feet dancing, fist pumping and ensuring you keep in a peak state.

From a virtual perspective this can feel strange but from the main stage you will see people all around the world showing some tremendous human spirit and with Tony giving call outs and encouragement to people, this creates a connection with everyone involved… It was personally touching to receive a shout out.

At certain times of the day you will get added to a breakout room to discuss with others some of the exercises you are set throughout the day. This is a great way to meet other people and share perspectives on the topics being discussed.

The day ends with karate chopping some wood which is replaced by the in person fire walk. It’s a novelty and a little psychology driven.

Overall a good day and seemingly a nice way to finish off a difficult 15 months with COVID as the UK starts to move to easing restrictions.

Hope this may helps if you are considering the event

Personal Development – RMT Core 100

Being an advocate of personal development I decided to invest in the RMT Core 100 program and start writing some blogs about the course and materials I was supplied with. The blog(s) may be helpful if you are also considering doing the course.

What is RMT Core 100?

At it’s core the program is about the Strategic Intervention Coaching (SI).

RMT Core 100 Training | Robbins-Madanes Training (rmtcenter.com)

“In our Core 100 Training Program, you will receive a coaching education that is not available anywhere else in the world. You will learn how to work with any client and help them achieve greater happiness, success, and better relationships. We suggest you start your training with Core 100. RMT Core 100 Training contains four Mastery Units which focus on Megastrategies, Navigating Life Stages, Personal Transformation, and Key Decisions. You will learn through watching, doing, discussing, listening, journaling and reading about coaching. We like to empower our students by using every learning modality. You will get a Certificate of Completion from Robbins-Madanes Center for 100 hours of training as a Life Coach.

The RMT Core 100 is program that was founded by the following coaches:

Tony Robbins

Chloe Madanes

Mark & Magali Peysha

What is Strategic Intervention?

Strategic Intervention is a cross-disciplinary movement dedicated to increasing connection, communication, happiness, and understanding in all people. SI (short for Strategic Intervention) is used worldwide by Life Coaches, Therapists, Doctors, Psychologists, Teachers, Business Consultants, and Community leaders. The goal of the Strategic Interventionist is to create happiness, understanding, and harmony through helping individuals and groups to harness their inner strength, group insights, and creative and systemic thinking. A Strategic Interventionist combines the talents of Life Coaching with the art of deep spiritual understanding and dynamic teaching skills.

Strategic Intervention Handbook

Peysha, Magali; Peysha, Mark. Strategic Intervention Handbook: How to quickly produce profound change in yourself and others (p. 26). Strategic Intervention Press. Kindle Edition.

Getting Started and Course Structure

If you commit to paying the full price of the course upfront you will receive additional bonus materials to help you get started as a coach.

Advice:
My advice before deciding whether to invest in the RMT Core 100 is to purchase the Strategic Intervention Handbook and read this first. This will give you an insight upfront about the guiding principles of the course and what to expect. This is not included when purchasing the course but it is recommended and will help you get to grips with the 16 mastery modules

Modules

Coaching Accelerator Workshop
If you purchase the course upfront then you will get this additional bonus. These are live sessions for you to attend and you will also receive the recordings of these sessions. These help you to start your coaching journey, build a brand and use social media to create pages to advertise yourself as a coach.

I’ve attended some of the sessions here but for me personally this is not currently my priority. I will refer to these recordings as and when I need to.

Coaching Practice Blueprint
This is another module designed to teach you some strategies to get up and running as a coach.

Core 100 Training Program
100 hours of training to help you develop as a life coach

Live Calendar
There are live student sessions for 6 months once enrolling. These are led by Mark and Magali Peysha and include the opportunity to work with other students to practice coaching skills. This is a very good benefit of the course and it’s good to be able grow your network here. All sessions are recorded and added to your training area.

Marketing Makeover

A number of sessions to discuss and assist with what you should do as a coach.

6 Human Needs
The 6 human needs is a core part of strategic intervention and is widely adopted throughout the course

  1. Certainty
    As human beings will all need some comfort or to put it another way we will do more to gain pleasure and move away from pain.
  2. Uncertainty
    The need for variety and challenges that make us grow. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably live with.
  3. Significance
    The need to feel important, unique, special and to feel needed
  4. Connection and Love
    Everyone has the need to give and receive love
  5. Growth
    If your not growing your dying, finding ways to grow gives us something to strive for to feel alive
  6. Contribution
    The secret to living is giving. The need to contribute to your community, a person or group can make a difference to peoples lives.

    The first 4 human needs are dependent on our need for survival and 5 & 6 are dependent on our need for fulfilment.

Where do I get started?

There is a lot of content in this course and it can be confusing about where to start as there is so much content. If I was starting this course again this is the order I would follow.

1. Strategic Intervention Handbook
2. 6 Human Needs
3. Coaching Blueprint
4. Coaching Accelerator Course
5. RMT Core 100, 16 modules

It’s up to you where you start but if you have limited experience in coaching then focusing on knowledge and strategies may be a good place to start like the steps highlighted above.

If you already have experience in the field of coaching you may wish to focus on the coaching accelerator, blueprint and marketing aspects first

As always I hope this blog may help

COVID19 – Taking Time to Reflect on the Impact and Causes of Depression and Anxiety

In the last couple of years the impact of COVID-19 on people’s lives has been significant, but not always fully appreciated. Many people are facing daily challenges including isolation or a disconnect/loss at a personal or professional area of life. With these types of challenges, trying to cope with the uncertainty of how to reconnect with the world, create new relationships and thrive can be overwhelming or seem impossible.

The mixed and confusing messages from governments and organizations around world continue to persist (COVID) bringing more uncertainty to peoples lives along with the longer term effects of mental health. Human beings have shown an incredible resiliency during the last 2 years, but as people we have specific needs to ensure we can function psychologically and ensure our wellbeing. A long term absence of these needs will lead to conditions such as depression and anxiety.

I recently researched some information books and videos on this topic and added them below. These videos and book reference below may be helpful for anyone that has been struggling to overcome a mental health problem or is unaware they are exhibiting the symptoms.

These TED Talks were published before COVID but help articulate why people become depressed and touches on the biological and psychological needs that all humans have.

Lost Connections

ps://thelostconnections.com/

Key Takeaways:

  • Research shows a rise of depression and Anxiety in the western world – Why?
  • Diagnosis of depression and anxiety can be over simplified as a ‘chemical imbalance’ (biological)
  • Diagnosis should also take into account the ‘human needs’ (psychological)
  • Medication may not be the best long term measure to resolve depression and anxiety
  • We should talk less about the chemical imbalances and more about the imbalances in the way we live

Contributers to Anxiety and Depression

  • Factors that will influence if someone is likely to be affected are:

    Loneliness
    When people perceive to have a lack of job control
    Little or no interaction with the world outside
    Humans have a psychological purpose which include:

    A life that has purpose or meaning
    A requirement for belonging to a group
    To feel optimistic about the future
    Replacing meaningful pursuits of happiness with mental diet of social media, emphasis on status and money

Defining Depression and Anxiety

  • Depression and Anxiety is a signal to bring to your attention that your human needs are not being met, it does not mean that you are weak or broken.

Digital Technology

The surge and acceleration of digital technologies has disrupted the way in which we interact with each other over the last 10 years and has increased during the last 2 years. The technologies have allowed people to remain connected and businesses to restructure and evolve under digital transformation. Technology however will never replace the need for humans to interact in person and work in groups.

We work with people across digital technologies to connect, collaborate and be productive at home and at work but I have noticed how many people do not like to put a camera on so we lose some connection with the people we engage with. Simply being able to read someone’s body language helps our daily interactions and responses to those around us.

I hope this blog may of brought some helpful insights if you may be interested in the subject, suffer with depression and anxiety or know someone who does.

When Satya Nadella took over as CEO of Microsoft in 2014, he drove change throughout the giant software company. Using a customer-centric focus, Nadella transformed Microsoft’s corporate culture. Travis Lowdermilk and Monty Hammontree, two Microsoft user-experience (UX) experts, walk you through Microsoft’s culture-change program. The authors explain how your firm can use similar programs to revolutionize your corporate culture to benefit your customers, your employees and your bottom line. 

Take-Aways

  • Microsoft’s third CEO, Satya Nadella, transformed the company by obsessing about customer needs.
  • The company generated customer empathy worldwide, scaling it up to 100,000+ employees.
  • Transforming a corporate culture requires “awareness, curiosity and courage.”
  • Corporate cultures are like software products: companies can hack them. To manage change, perform six hacks.
  • 1. Establish a language that all employees understand easily. 
  • 2. Create bridges that connect employees, not walls that separate them.
  • 3. Promote a learning attitude.
  • 4. Develop quality leaders who will nurture a quality corporate culture.
  • 5. Be a pragmatist, not an absolutist. Meet people halfway.
  • 6. Your data should be meaningful to your employees.
  • Transforming your culture to become more customer-centric benefits your company, your clients and your employees.

Summary

Microsoft’s third CEO, Satya Nadella, transformed the company by obsessing about customer needs.

Microsoft’s reputation had suffered grave damage. Customers and commentators in and out of the tech world regarded the giant software company as an evil, grasping monolith that despised its customers and did little to provide for them. Those on the inside felt that Microsoft had devolved into separate warring “siloed” kingdoms constantly battling one another. Software engineers – and especially open-source developers – viewed Microsoft as an out-of-touch dinosaur and avoided its developer services.

Then, in 2014, Satya Nadella, became Microsoft’s third CEO. He was determined to transform the cantankerous corporation.

“Change is a hero’s journey in which we leave the status quo, are confronted with trials and tribulations and return forever changed by our experiences.”

Nadella’s plan was simple: In the future, the company would obsess over customer satisfaction. Its new mission statement ambitiously said: “Empower every person and every organization on the planet to achieve more.” Under Nadella’s leadership, “customer empathy” became Microsoft’s guiding light. The corporate giant began to emphasize customer outcomes and experiences.

The company generated customer empathy worldwide, scaling it up to 100,000+ employees.

Nadella faced the enormous challenge of generating customer empathy throughout a giant worldwide corporation. Getting more than 100,000 far-flung workers to focus on customers began with changing Microsoft’s corporate culture, which Nadella described as “rigid.” He asked a pivotal question: “What culture do we want to foster?”

“Perhaps the most important driver of success is culture.” ” (Nadella)

Microsoft’s influential 2,000-employee Developer Division (DevDiv) bears responsibility for “developer tooling.” DevDiv played a major role in Microsoft’s extraordinary transformation. It began its “customer-driven cultural journey” in 2013, the year before Nadella became CEO. With the new boss’s emphasis on learning, DevDiv professionals adopted the idea of letting customers teach the company what they wanted as Microsoft’s new guiding principle. With DevDiv leading the way, Microsoft began to learn all it could about its customers. While continuing to follow classic Lean principles, the company focused on innovation, nonstop acquisition of knowledge and “constant collaboration.” 

Transforming a corporate culture requires “awareness, curiosity and courage.”

Three behaviors are crucial in changing a corporate culture: 

  1. Awareness – Double-check your theories about your products and services. Define, clarify and codify your assumptions. Restate them as hypotheses you can test.
  2. Curiosity – To develop products or services customers want, embrace curiosity to fuel an ongoing effort to gather comprehensive information about all of them.
  3. Courage – Despite your best efforts, the products and services you plan to offer may not prove to be what customers want. Show sufficient courage and tough-mindedness to drop failed ideas, shift course and move ahead.

To illustrate, imagine a company that bases its product strategy on the gut feelings of senior executives who lack the curiosity to fund research to learn what their customers truly need or want. It badly needs to invest in product research. Or consider another company that delves into the necessary research, but doesn’t act on its findings because they run counter to its entrenched business model. It needs to face the future and put its data to use.

“The company’s stock had soared to an all-time high…Microsoft was doing something radically different, and people were wondering what that was.”

Over time, Nadella’s push inside Microsoft succeeded in transforming its culture, as its bottom line proved beyond a doubt. DevDiv UX research manager Kelly Krout noted that Nadella’s first priority was to develop the iterations within Microsoft and its products that generated widespread positive customer responses. This drove renewed profits and increased share price. Now, no other company has greater value than Microsoft.

Corporate cultures are like software products: companies can hack them. To manage change, perform six hacks.

Software translates inputs into outputs to instruct computers. Similarly, cultural norms and corporate policies instruct organizations. Employees “download” the organization’s instructions – its culture – to learn how it expects them to act and to understand the outputs it wants them to produce. 

“If your customers are unhappy, chances are your employees aren’t happy either. Creating a lasting culture that is deeply empathetic toward customer needs and experiences requires an organization that is deeply empathetic toward its employees’ needs and experiences.”

Hacking your culture relies on step-by-step efforts, innovations and iterations, some of which will work and some of which won’t. Even those that work must be adjusted, purged of internal problems and made to run at their best. Six effective “culture hacks” can serve as vital way-stations on your organization’s culture-change path. They are:

1. Establish a language that employees understand easily.

Linguist Benjamin Whorf explains, “Language shapes the way we think and determines what we think about.” To ensure that everyone in your organization uses the same terms and language, compile and disseminate a common glossary. A common language enables your people to connect and collaborate with each other and with your customers. 

“Moving to a common language takes practice. It’s like a new pair of shoes: they feel a bit awkward at first, but as soon as you break them in, they feel like an extension of your feet.”

People who share a common culture use its language to state their values and preferences. When you provide a different language, your company’s internal thinking, actions and values will change – and that will shift the culture. A customer-driven culture requires its own “language of learning.” In Microsoft’s DevDiv, various learning concepts – “assumptions, hypotheses, experiments and sense-making” – are intrinsic to its day-to-day common vocabulary.

2. Create bridges that connect employees, not walls that separate them.

Some companies become – either by design or happenstance – siloed hotbeds of competitiveness, as Microsoft once was. This is not an uncommon problem. Things were so bad at Microsoft that a comical, insulting organizational chart made frequent rounds on the web showing different Microsoft divisions aiming pistols at each other. Customers don’t care about corporate boundaries and employee rivalries. They care only about having a great experience. 

“Brilliant innovators deserve their rightful place in history. But we seem to always forget that their contributions to society were often nurtured within potent learning networks.”

The team approach breaks down silos and subdues internal competition. Promote “cross-functional-knowledge sharing” across all divisions. Eliminate superfluous internal barriers. Make sure those who plan and develop your products – including product managers and user researchers – are in direct touch with customers and know their preferences, observations and concerns. Your employees must communicate consistently to facilitate knowledge sharing.

3. Promote a learning attitude.

Learning is essential to developing a customer-centric corporate culture. Learn all you can about your customers. Being customer oriented means “being learning driven.” Value the knowledge your company acquires through its mistakes. Avoid a know-it-all attitude. Encourage and pay attention to a broad selection of opinions and viewpoints. Just like people, companies aren’t perfect. Organizations and their employees can learn from both success and failure.

4. Develop quality leaders who will nurture a quality corporate culture.

Compliment and thank your leaders. Your gratitude will encourage them to model a culture that prioritizes customers. Spotlight quality work and customer-oriented behavior by setting up “face time” so promising employees can get to know leaders who serve as role models.

“The metrics we use to enforce accountability are where our cultural platitudes are tested. How we define and measure success is the final test that reveals what we truly value as an organization.”

Change makes people uncomfortable. It’s not easy for employees to accept a new corporate culture. To enlist support, spotlight selected employees who embody the behavior you want to encourage. So people have reference points, script the employee behaviors you prefer. Make sure your “systems and tools” work well within the new culture. “Embed belonging cues” in employee milestones – like job interviews, onboarding, anniversaries, groundbreaking projects, performance evaluations, raises and promotions, and retirement – to promote internal cultural ties.

5. Be a pragmatist, not an absolutist. Meet people halfway.

The more difficult you make cultural change, the less likely it is to succeed. This means you must be willing to meet employees halfway and not insist on “dogmatic adherence” to any suggestions or policies.

“No one owns the voice of the customer except for the customer[s] themselves. In a customer-driven organization, everyone must be responsible for connecting with customers and learning from them.”

A rigid approach may backfire and deliver negative results. Instead, be “passionately pragmatic.” Most employees want autonomy. Therefore, adopt a flexible approach that permits your teams and employees to establish and implement their own customer-centric processes. To establish trust, don’t automatically dismiss your detractors. Listen to them with respect.

6. Your data should be meaningful to your employees.

Numbers, extrapolations and spreadsheets can include significant information, but raw data inspires no one. To seize and hold listeners’ interest and attention, you need to share stories that resonate with their emotions. For commercial organizations, this means compelling customer service and success narratives.

“When building a customer focused organization, it’s important that the stories of your customers permeate your everyday conversations.”

Customer-usage data and customer analytics detail how your customers utilize your products or services, but this information has little or nothing to do with why your customers embrace your offerings. The only way to learn more is to ask customers and to listen to their stories. The best stories have five traits:

  1. Simplicity –The stories are immediately comprehensible.
  2. Unexpectedness – They feature intriguing details that surprise listeners.
  3. “Concreteness” – The stories are tangible, definitive and succinct.
  4. Credibility – They stories are believable.
  5. Emotions – The stories convey powerful feelings and spark strong responses.

Transforming your culture to become more customer-centric benefits your company, your clients and your employees.

To know if your change strategies are working, measure the results. Ask these questions about your current culture: 

  • What is your current positive-culture growth metric? Does it demonstrate the employee behavior you are encouraging? If not, how can you make sure that it does?
  • Are your employee feedback measurements quantitative and qualitative?
  • Is your corporate culture heading the right way? Brainstorm with your team to determine whether the firm and its workforce value “awareness, curiosity and courage.”
  • Each month, use “small-sample pulse surveys” to monitor your culture’s progress. Survey your employees using a likeability scale about their access to customer data, their and their managers’ use of customer feedback in making decisions, and how they perceive customers’ enthusiasm, requirements, irritations and wishes.

As a result of your work on cultural change, your employees should engage more deeply with your clientele, your organization and each other. Your culture-transformation efforts will motivate your employees, give them a sense of mission, make them happier at work and help them connect with customers in more meaningful ways.

Being More Present in 2022

Reconnecting the customer experience

Since the pandemic appeared almost 2 years ago almost everyone has had to embrace change or adapt many areas of their lives to get through these tough times.

During this period companies have had to rapidly adapt their business against the uncertain future and increase the rate of adoption in digital technologies. During these times it never been more important to help customers on this journey and we should always be mindful that people are working in the most challenging of conditions which could be directly impact their ability to do their job.

Even before the pandemic occurred most business would of been using some digital technologies to communicate using email, telephone, video conferencing especially if the the company has points of presence in different countries. The problem now is that it has replaced too many interactions we used to take for granted, we have become unconsciously disconnected and unaware of how these new behaviours have manifested themselves.

I pondered on this over the month of November and December about how this had impacted me personally and what changes I felt I could make to adapt more positively to the current working environment and the people around me.

I created a list of all the things I used to do prior to pandemic especially all the small details and looked at how I could improve my mindset around work and improve outcomes

  1. Get back in the habit of wearing smart professional clothing
    During the pandemic I fell into this habit of wearing more casual clothing whilst I spent my days working at home.

    Why?
    To be more present
    Getting back into the habit of dressing as you would be in the office if a shift in mindset, you are mentally preparing for the day ahead and using a simple but effective form of discipline that gets you in primed for the day ahead and your interactions throughout the day.

  2. Start using my webcam on customer and internal meetings

    Why?
    To be more present
    Turning the web cam on demonstrates a readiness and an openness and that you are ready to tackle the task at hand. This simple act shows presence and that no one is hiding. One of the benefits in being able to discuss tasks face to face is our ability to respond to body language and get a sense of how someone is really feeling. When we understand how someone is feeling we can subtly adjust or interactions to improve the outcome.

The status quo

When the pandemic started, the use of digital technologies was beneficial in our ability to interact, collaborate and stay connected, but digital technology will never replace our human need to be in the company of other people or groups as a way of identifying and have a sense belonging, meaning or purpose. The less we interact with other people in this way impacts the meaning it gives our work and also our purpose in the workplace. This gradual erosion of interactions can impact our motivations and relationships.

I hope you find this blog enlightening

TheProgressiveLifeCoach

Book Review

The Purpose Effect

Recommendation

Dan Pontefract, author of Flat Army, explains how companies can establish meaningful goals, provide energized workplaces, and contribute to their communities and society. Such “purpose-driven” firms put principles ahead of profits, but they find in the long run that being purpose-driven is good for business. Pontefract shows firms how to reach a meaningful “sweet spot” where three important roles come together: each employee’s “personal sense of purpose,” the company’s purpose and the role-based purpose employees feel when their jobs align with their priorities and beliefs. Those who seek a sense of direction for their organizations and business students will benefit from this detailed, practical, inspirational book.

Take-Aways

  • “Purpose-driven” firms put principles above profits. They focus on their customers, employees, team members, community and society, as well as profits.
  • The “Purpose Effect” has three components:
  • “Personal purpose” centers on each employee’s identity and commitment.
  • “Organizational purpose” concerns a firm’s “principles, ethics, leadership and culture.”
  • “Role purpose” focuses on turning each worker’s job into a “calling.”
  • The alignment of these elements creates an energizing “sweet spot.”
  • The Purpose Effect inspires employees by making their jobs meaningful.
  • Purposeful organizations follow the “Good DEEDS” acronym: “Delight, Engage, (Be) Ethical, Deliver” and “Serve.”
  • To use it, make customers feel great, engage with your employees, operate ethically, always be fair and serve all stakeholders.
  • Purpose-driven companies set out to earn profits and improve society.

Summary

Behind the Scenes Making Sausage

Johnsonville Sausage LLC, headquartered in Sheboygan Falls, Wisconsin, produces meatballs, sausages and bratwurst. It employs 1,500 people it refers to as “team members.” It sells more than $1 billion in meat products annually.

In 2015, a fire destroyed Johnsonville’s plant in nearby Watertown. One hundred Johnsonville members had no place to go to work and nothing to do. Johnsonville’s management decided to keep paying them their full salaries. In return, it asked its members to volunteer for community work for 20 hours each week and to spend another 20 hours each week on self-education. These activities occupied its Watertown workers for nearly a year until a new plant opened.

“When the culture of an organization is harmonious – when team members feel as though their opinion and contributions matter – a causal relationship between increased team member commitment and bottom-line improvements becomes a likely outcome.”

Johnsonville Sausage has been a special place to work ever since Ralph C. Stayer founded the company in 1945. Its “culture statement” says that Johnsonville’s goal is to “become the best company in the world,” something it characterizes as a “moral responsibility.” The firm serves “the best interest” of its stakeholders and the “personal growth” of its members. Johnsonville’s intranet publishes the “personal development commitments” of each member.

“When an individual performs in a role so that meaning and fulfillment [are] demonstrated, good things can happen for all stakeholders.”

A drive to implement the “Highest Impact on Customer Service” (HICS) is the foundation of Johnsonville’s business strategy. Team members work continually to implement it. Johnsonville’s purpose transcends profits. Its culture statement represents the firm’s deeply held ethos, by which the company lives daily – even in the toughest times.

“While purpose in the workplace is imperative, leaders are potentially overlooking its significance to the overarching health of our civilization.”

Johnsonville executive Cory Bouck explains, “It would be morally wrong to hold people to incredibly high standards without also giving them every opportunity and resource to stretch and grow themselves in order to be able to deliver against those high standards.”

“Purpose-Driven” Firms

Many notable organizations across a broad range of industries have set an example of how purpose-driven companies act. Consider these examples:

  • In-N-Out Burgers, a fast-food chain, pays new employees an above-the-minimum wage.
  • Gravity Payments, a credit-card processing company, pays every employee at least $70,000, based on a Princeton study finding that $75,000 represents the ceiling for emotional well-being. Gravity’s CEO lowered his salary by $90,000.
  • Fairphone, which makes mobile phones, uses “conflict-free minerals” to manufacture “ethical” cellphones.
  • Ikea manufactures a wide range of furniture, following a core business plan that calls for “prices so low that as many people as possible will be able to afford them.”
  • In 1982, Johnson & Johnson quickly ordered stores to remove 31 million bottles of Extra Strength Tylenol from their shelves when a criminal poisoned a few bottles with arsenic, killing seven people. The company reportedly lost more than $100 million, but cemented its long-term reputation for caring about its consumers.

The “Purpose Effect”

Purpose-driven firms base their activities on the Purpose Effect, which concerns the organization’s purpose beyond making money, the roles that its team members play within the organization and their individual motivation. The organization, individual team members and society all benefit when each element is in place.

“When an organization and its team members are indeed on the same page – when the sweet spot is being demonstrated by all parties – a collective sense of community can be felt.”

The Purpose Effect engages and fulfills team members and engages them. In this atmosphere, people do better work. If an organization’s purpose conflicts with employees’ purposes, they will be unhappy at work. But the Purpose Effect ensures that all workers feel that their jobs represent more than just paychecks. They want their work to be meaningful and to give them a genuine sense of purpose. As management expert Peter Drucker explained, “To make a living is no longer enough. Work also has to make a life.”

The Components of the Purpose Effect

The Purpose Effect emerges at the intersection of three essential factors:

1. “A Personal Sense of Purpose”

Each team member should have a special, motivating purpose that addresses “what, who and how.” Personal purpose calls for knowing who you are in terms of three aspects: First, develop yourself. Be determined to improve and grow. Ask, “What am I doing to evolve myself?” Second, define what your life should be, and redefine it regularly. Ask, “Who am I in life and at work?” Third, decide every day to act in a moral, ethical and responsible way in keeping with the person you choose to be. Ask, “How will I operate and be perceived by others?”

2. “Organizational Purpose”

This is why your company exists. Organizational purpose defines who and what the company is to itself, team members, customers, its local community and society as a whole. Organizational purpose concerns “principles, ethics, leadership and culture.” Organizational purpose requires the implementation and deliverance of solid “fair practices” to all team members. This involves compensation (pay your people fairly); performance management (substitute “coaching and mentoring” for “in-depth scrutinizing”); and “recognition” (58% of all team members want more workplace appreciation).

3. “Role-Based Purpose”

Every organization assigns people to certain roles to meet its goals, and every team member’s role should be meaningful. Most people define themselves according to their work; that’s why their roles at work are so important. Employees’ role purpose should completely align with their “personal and organizational purpose.” For role purpose to emerge, companies must treat their employees well.

“The sweet spot is less a gentle overlap between three categories of purpose, and more the result of dynamic tension between three often contradictory demands.” (Box of Crayons consultancy founder Michael Bungay Stanier)

Team members who have a sense of the purpose about their roles don’t think of their jobs as meal tickets. Instead, each person views his or her job as a “calling.” This is how you want your employees to feel about their work. University of Ottawa research indicates that 76% of people who see their jobs as callings are “always engaged” at work.

The “Sweet Spot”

The sweet spot of purpose is where the three areas come together in a “reciprocal relationship.” A balanced sweet spot emerges only when these main components work together. This aligned structure supports members of the staff, “teams, the organization, customers, owners and, perhaps most importantly, society as a whole.” The sweet spot isn’t a final destination. Instead, it’s “an outcome of the alignment between personal, organizational and role purpose.” To reach the sweet spot, organizations first need a declaration of purpose.

“An organization without purpose [could] miss out on keeping or hiring high-performing individuals.”

The declaration of purpose of Deere & Company (previously known as John Deere, still its trade name) states, “We are committed to serving those linked to the land, thereby helping to improve living standards for people everywhere.” Whole Foods’ purpose is, “Helping support the health, well-being and healing of both people – customers, team members and business organizations in general – and the planet.” Patagonia’s purpose is to “Build the best product, cause no unnecessary harm, use business to inspire and implement solutions to the environmental crisis.”

“Win-Win-Win”

Many companies have a shortsighted focus on profit alone. Such organizations should broaden their perspectives. Mana Ionescu, the founder of Lightspan Digital, a purpose-driven Chicago firm that offers professional content marketing and social media services, says that companies need win-win-win strategies.

“In a world where anything or anyone can be owned, manipulated and exploited for profit, everything and everyone will eventually be.” (University of British Columbia law professor Joel Bakan, “The Corporation”)

These tactics create profits as well as giving customers solid value, making significant contributions to society, and providing meaningful, rewarding and satisfying work for their employees. However, win-win-win will work only if all team members, no matter what their individual roles and authority, perform as both “leaders and followers.”

“An individual who seeks a personal sense of purpose in life…is constantly developing, defining and deciding his values, priorities, attributes and general ways of conducting themselves.”

The culture of a win-win-win organization is “open, connected, collaborative, participative”; it’s based on “general reciprocity.” This means that all team members work together for the common good and understand the organization’s goals of achieving a high level of service as well as a profit. Everyone in a win-win-win organization should have a “purpose mind-set.” That is, all team members should feel passionate about their work and their performance. Everyone should commit to developing a “meaningful and engaging” workplace.

The “Job Mind-Set”

The purpose mind-set stands in marked contrast to the job mind-set, which shapes the actions of employees who do their jobs simply to earn paychecks, and the “career mind-set,” under which employees focus primarily on advancing their careers so they can earn more money and accumulate more power and prestige.

“Companies in which more employees perceive their workplaces as ethical report higher retention rates, more positive work and supervisory relationships, better dispute resolution, and enhanced productivity.” (Keyes)

Both of these money and power-oriented mind-sets undermine the purpose mind-set. When you educate your employees about their personal, organizational and role purposes, address these negative mind-sets directly. Explain why they aren’t in alignment with how people think in a purpose-driven organization.

“Personal Declaration of Purpose”

Each team member should create his or her personal declaration of purpose that answers the all-important question, “Who am I in life and at work?” This brief written document provides each person with an “ongoing definition” that changes depending on evolving circumstances. You can’t achieve balance – the sweet spot – among your personal, organizational and role purposes unless you know the personal purpose that brings meaning to your life.

“Good DEEDS”

Organizations that are formally or informally dedicated to their purpose subscribe to the goals outlined by the Good DEEDS acronym:

  • “Delight your customers” – Remember, customers are the top priority; strive to make them happy.
  • “Engage your team members” – Helping your team members flourish will create a sense of communitas, denoting a “feeling and spirit of togetherness.”
  • “(Be) ethical within society” – Make a positive contribution, and have no negative effect on people or the environment.
  • “Deliver fair practices” – Offer top value for a reasonable price.
  • “Serve all stakeholders” – An organization’s stakeholders include its “customers, team members, the community and owners.”

Purpose Is Good Business

McKinsey & Company advises companies to “integrate environmental, social and governance issues into their business model – and act on them.” Purpose-driven companies achieve “positive productivity gains,” and they enjoy “short- and long-term growth” and “financial benefits.” Deloitte reports that 73% of team members in purpose-driven organizations feel “fully engaged” in their work.

“By working faithfully eight hours a day you may eventually get to be boss and work 12 hours a day.” (journalist Robert Quillen)

Companies that operate with purpose are on the path to becoming productive, successful enterprises with engaged team members. Their focus is to improve society as well as to increase profits. This isn’t just smart business; it’s also the moral, ethical thing to do. Futurist Buckminster Fuller probably said it best: “Make the world work, for 100% of humanity, in the shortest possible time, through spontaneous cooperation, without ecological offense or the disadvantage of anyone.”

About the Author

Dan Pontefract is “chief envisioner” of TELUS Transformation Office, a consulting firm that helps organizations enhance their corporate culture and collaboration practices. He also wrote the bestseller Flat Army: Creating a Connected and Engaged Organization.

Book Review

Coach the Person Not the Problem

Recommendation

Marcia Reynolds promises the key to transformational coaching: being fully present. She teaches readers to focus on individuals rather than their problems to draw out your clients’ true feelings and get to the root of their concerns. Packed with easy-to-grasp tips and case studies, Reynold’s book includes the five techniques of reflective inquiry. Find out how to use thinking partnerships to expand your clients’ perspectives and help them gain the power and confidence to move forward.

Take-Aways

  • Successful coaching techniques focus on inquiry, not merely on asking questions.
  • People don’t transform their thinking on their own; coaching helps. Coaches can use five essential techniques:
  • 1. Focus – Direct your attention as a coach to your client rather than to the client’s initial problem.
  • 2. Active replay – Affirm clients’ stories by echoing their words.
  • 3. Brain hacking – Help clients discover values or biases that may prevent them from seeing alternative approaches.  
  • 4. Goaltending – Help clients keep their story on track.
  • 5. New and next – Promise engagement and prod clients to take action.
  • Coaches must know what to say, guard their emotions and remain present.

Summary

Successful coaching techniques focus on inquiry, not merely on asking questions.

Acknowledging the differences between inquiry and questioning differentiates good coaches from great ones. Many coaches learn to ask specific questions, quite like following a checklist. However, this approach takes focus away from the client’s responses. Effective coaching seeks to spur reflection rather than to provide solutions to a particular problem. To become your client’s “thinking partner,” use reflective inquiry: Pair statements which spark reflective thinking with questions.

“The intent of inquiry is not to find solutions but to provoke critical thinking about our own thoughts. Inquiry helps people being coached discern gaps in their logic, evaluate their beliefs, and clarify fears and desires affecting their choices.”

When coaches use a series of questions with clients who come to them with specific problems, the questions direct the client to a solution for that particular problem, yet underlying issues often remain. Reflective inquiry, by contrast, helps clients understand the beliefs and fears that shape their choices. Reflective inquiry also allows people to reframe their initial problem and place it in a larger context.

True coaching creates a thinking partnership between the coach and the client. This partnership helps clients shift their perspective to see what their words and actions reveal, to evaluate their situation and to believe in their potential. Some coaching moves away from developing this client relationship and, instead, relies on advice-giving. However, simply providing solutions inhibits the client’s ability to become a self-aware and independent thinker going forward. Strong coaches create connections with their clients, bring their client’s true concerns to light and help them develop the confidence to tackle problems on their own in the future.

People don’t transform their thinking on their own; coaching helps. Coaches can use five essential techniques.

People naturally resist reflecting on their thoughts. When others question a person’s beliefs, he or she often becomes defensive, erecting emotional barriers and resisting change. Yet when an effective coach uses reflective inquiry to summarize a client’s own words and paraphrase his or her ideas, then connections form and self-awareness begins.

“Reflective statements help people think about what they are saying.”

This practice of reflective inquiry prompts the necessary two-way conversation. In one example, a client expressed frustration with the ideas her co-workers offered in business strategy sessions. Through coaching, she discovered that her concerns were rooted in her reluctance to recognize cultural differences and that affected her thinking about the way other people approached business priorities. By shifting her perspective, she learned to be more inclusive and became a better leader. All coaching sessions must include these key elements:

  • Goals – Establish a desired outcome, even if it does not present itself initially.
  • Blocks – Identify any hurdles that may affect progress toward the goal.
  • Actions – Determine next steps.

Clients can maximize the impact of their coaching sessions by participating openly. They must commit to following through on ideas and reflecting on any revelations. This coaching approach focuses on transforming the client’s behavior rather than simply solving an isolated problem.

1. Focus – Direct your attention as a coach to your client rather than to the client’s initial problem.

Five essential techniques facilitate reflective inquiry: “Focus,” “Active Replay,” “Brain Hacking,” “Goaltending” and “New and Next.” When clients embark on a coaching journey, they usually identify a problem or a situation needing resolution. Coaches can use the problem to begin a two-way conversation, then, gradually, shift the focus away from the particular problem. At that point, the coach can help bring to light any hurdles and misperceptions that cloud the client’s thinking. This shift may make clients uncomfortable; yet, challenging the beliefs that govern their actions can expand their thinking and give them much-needed direction.

“If you believe the person you are coaching has some experiences to draw from in seeking a resolution to the issue presented, then the focus needs to move away from the external problem and onto the person.”

An executive leading a division that his organization was attempting to sell expressed anxiety over problems he had with his team leaders, some of whom questioned whether they should move on to other positions. Upon further reflection, he discovered his issue centered not on his employees and their motivations but on his own ability to secure another job – an uncomfortable revelation his coach pushed him to acknowledge. This type of awareness-based coaching shifts the focus from the initial problem to the client and uncovers sentiments the client has been unable or unwilling to acknowledge. Use “Focus” effectively by taking these steps:

  • Set clear expectations for the session’s agenda and the coach’s role.
  • Confirm belief in the client’s abilities and potential.
  • Know when to transition from the problem to the client.

2. Active replay – Affirm clients’ stories by echoing their words.

The practical coaching method of restating a client’s story offers insights and clarity into the client’s direction. Active replay calls for the coach to employ two strategies: summarizing and observing. Summarizing a client’s words on the surface appears straightforward, yet it can be powerful in helping the client understand his or her true motivations. For example, one client expressed disappointment over her husband’s unwillingness to change his job schedule. After hearing her coach summarize her words, she realized the true source of her frustration – a breakdown in communication – and that shifted the direction of the coaching. Summarizing uses three useful techniques:

  • Recapping – Use the client’s words to clarify understanding or point out contradictions.
  • Paraphrasing – Alter the client’s words slightly to try to guess their true direction, which they can confirm or rebuff.
  • Encapsulating – Sum up the conversation succinctly to elicit a more accurate understanding of the problem from the client.

Observing clients as they discuss their concerns often offers the coach as much information as the words they speak. By noticing hesitations, emotional shifts or changes in tone when the client tells his or her story, coaches can share the emotions they observe and explore their meaning.

“Reflective statements and questions provide an active replay of not just their behaviors but also the beliefs, fears, disappointments, betrayals, conflicts of values and desires prompting their actions.”

Importantly, coaches must allow clients to express their emotions without judgment, since these observations often provide important revelations, and judging them may cause clients to withdraw. Coaches should do the following when engaging in active replay:

  • Use client’s words to recap or paraphrase, then validate them.
  • Drill down to the main points of the client’s story.
  • Notice changes in temperament when summarizing.
  • Provide emotional safety for the client.

3. Brain hacking – Help clients discover values or biases that may prevent them from seeing alternative approaches.  

Life experiences provide context for people in their day-to-day lives. When they face problems, they intuitively lean on those experiences. The coach’s job often entails breaking through clients’ experiences to expose beliefs or prejudices that may hamper their ability to consider different strategies. Coaches must encourage clients to explore their beliefs to see what makes sense and what does not. In one coaching session, for example, the client had to first question her beliefs about what good managers “should” accomplish instead of focusing immediately on the tough decision at hand.

“Our beliefs, biases and assumptions come from our experiences but are formed through the filter of our life values and social needs. As we experience life, we pull from our context to make meaning of our situations.”

People prefer to view situations through the lens of their long-held beliefs and the related standards that guide their actions. Coaches must balance these values and the biases they produce with clients’ social needs, such as the need for respect or control. When coaches help clients recognize what they value, how those values shape their decisions and what they feel they need, clients can reframe their desired outcome in those contexts. In brain hacking, resist judging your clients, notice their emotional reactions, and affirm their efforts and intentions.

4. Goaltending – Help clients keep their story on track.

At the onset of a coaching session, coaches and clients establish desired outcomes. Yet often, goals shift or the outcome becomes less clear. Coaches must continue to move with the conversation, set new goals as needed and make sure the client agrees with the direction. Expressing and working toward a stated outcome assures that the conversation stays focused and that clients can apply what they learn after their session.

“Clarifying the desired outcome gives the coach guardrails to keep the story from falling off the edge of a forward-moving path.” ”

Coaches use three essential practices to maintain focus:

  1. Establish what clients want; then have them sort through their options.
  2. Monitor changes in the conversation that may uncover an alternate outcome, and, with that, new insights that offer clear solutions.
  3. Identify take-aways and steps toward commitment.

To keep the goal in focus, coaches must listen for what clients feel is most important as well as for ideas that cause emotional reactions, like fear, frustration or embarrassment. At the same time, the coach helps clients identify any blocks that prevent them from moving forward. Once a new outcome surfaces, the client and coach can discuss next steps. Coaches using goaltending should heed three tips:

  • State what you hear as the problem and ask clients to choose an outcome they want to work toward.
  • Notice when an outcome shifts, and relay this to the clients.
  • Recognize emotional triggers and ask how the clients’ reactions relate to the desired outcome.

5. New and next – Promise engagement and prod clients to take action.

Reflective inquiry yields insights into clients’ true goals. To benefit from coaching, clients must commit to taking action. Before clients can act, however, they must acknowledge their insights and agree to new goals.

“Without formally wrapping up the coaching session with a verbalized commitment to action, clients may forget what they thought they knew to do after the session ends. They might even lose the insight they had.”

During the session, the coach works with clients to reiterate their objectives and then shifts to outlining next steps.Using questions such as, “What will you do with this knowledge?”, “What hurdles might inhibit you from moving forward?” or phrases like “Take time to reflect” creates openings for clients to share their plans. This increases the likelihood that they will follow through. To maximize this phase, take these steps:

  • Recognize and share emotional shifts that may prompt new revelations. 
  • Allow clients to change the direction of the coaching after exposing new insights.
  • Develop a plan for action.

Coaches must know what to say, guard their emotions and remain present.

Astute coaches create a safe zone for clients to discuss their concerns and open themselves to self-reflection. A coach’s emotions influence the relationship with the client and the client’s willingness to share.

“The mental habits of being present, receiving instead of listening, and releasing judgment change the dynamics of relationships. Using reflective statements followed by affirming questions decreases assumptions, keeping the conversation on the same page.”

Three mental habits – the A.R.C. of coaching – influence a coach’s ability to be present for their clients:

  1. “Align your brain” – Coaches must practice physical and mental awareness when coaching clients in order to focus on the discussion at hand. The coach’s objective – to broaden the client’s perspective – requires that the coach participate in – but not steer – the conversation and offer clients space to tell their story.
  2. “Receive, not just listen” – The key to active listening, or receiving, lies in holding back judgment. By remaining quiet the coach can better read clients’ emotional energy as well as their words. This strengthens the thinking partnership.
  3. “Catch and release judgment” – Like all humans, coaches have judgmental instincts; yet in coaching sessions, judgment can impair the client relationship. Coaches must learn to recognize when their own biases and assumptions impede their ability to form a partnership with their clients. For example, when a client laughs nervously, rather than trying to guess why, the coach needs to ask what thoughts the client had at the moment.

People benefit when they learn coaching skills. Companies benefit also when leaders instill an organizational coaching culture. The coaching mind-set opens people’s minds to different perspectives and increases employee engagement. More engagement means lower turnover and a more agile work environment.

About the Author

Marcia Reynolds, PsyD, helps coaches and leaders work with clients to create transformative conversations. She has provided coaching and training in 41 countries, and Global Gurus named her as one of the world’s top five coaches.  

Book Review

Meaning, Inc

Recommendation

Declining morale, lower productivity, burnout and lack of advancement make work seem like a grind. Plummeting employee engagement is a global phenomenon, especially in developed nations, but there is a remedy: add meaning to your corporate culture. Author Gurnek Bains (writing with Kylie Bains) teaches that making your employees’ work more meaningful can reinvigorate their engagement, and improve your profits, productivity and public relations. getAbstract finds plenty of depth in Bains’ argument that companies prosper and people work better when they know that their labor serves a greater good. Using studies and analysis, he demonstrates why leaders who want energized employees should begin by explaining what their work really means.

Take-Aways

  • Companies worldwide are finding that workers are not fully engaged in their duties.
  • Only 20% of U.S. workers reported being “enthusiastic” about their jobs.
  • Employees want their work to be significant and to make a contribution to society.
  • Today’s companies face more responsibility: Two-thirds of the world’s largest financial entities are corporations – as opposed to nations.
  • People have a sense of meaning when their activities relate to something purposeful.
  • Meaning becomes more powerful when workers can connect their values and beliefs to what their companies are doing.
  • People create meaning to survive and to frame their activities positively.
  • Creative leaders transform their organizations and convert opportunities into action.
  • Maintaining work-life balance is a major source of meaning and job satisfaction.
  • Your company can improve engagement by giving employees a sense of purpose.

Summary

The Price of Great Rewards

Businesses today ask more of their employees, clients and customers. At the same time, governments ask more from businesses. In the years ahead, increasingly powerful corporations will be asked to contribute more to society, over and above paying taxes. To put this in context, realize that Wal-Mart’s $287 billion gross annual sales in 2005 would have made it the 22nd largest nation in terms of gross domestic product. The World Bank and Fortune magazine found that two-thirds of the globe’s largest financial entities are corporations, not nations or public institutions.

“Meaning can and will give businesses a genuine competitive edge.”

As companies become more important, some executives are finding that they can encourage their employees to work harder by helping them reach for more meaningful corporate and personal goals. Companies such as Virgin, Starbucks, The Tata Group, ANZ Bank, Genentech and Southwest Airlines have realized that working toward purposeful objectives motivates employees and leads to greater profitability. Injecting meaning into daily operations gives employees a sense of purpose. The alternative is having workers who are no longer engaged in their work, thus undermining morale, competitiveness and earnings.

“At the core of a company’s identity lie the implicit values and ground rules that govern its day-to-day behaviors.”

Companies create meaning when they improve the way they relate to their employees and customers. Companies on this positive path typically exhibit these characteristics:

  • They offer stretch goals in pursuit of their core objectives.
  • They innovate, deliver employee benefits and make people feel special.
  • They allow people to be individuals and to build their own talents.
  • They critically evaluate each person’s work and contribution to group efforts.
  • They are concerned about wider issues.
  • They forgo short-term goals that conflict with their deeper purpose.
  • They live their stated ideals.

“Genuinely listening to what people want and responding to it authentically is what we understand by ‘creating meaning’.”

For example, take British Petroleum, whose CEO was one of the first major executives to acknowledge the danger of global warming, an odd admission from an oil company leader. BP, now the world’s second largest oil concern, uses the concept of “mutual advantage” to work with different constituencies. Genentech, a biotech firm that Fortune called the best company to work for in the United States, spends about 20% of its revenues on research and development. It offers innovative HR programs and it caters to working mothers. Starbucks also supports its employees and its coffee growers, even though that doesn’t always boost its bottom line. Companies that embrace a higher meaning thrive because they meet their customers and employees’ expectations of how socially conscious businesses should act.

“The increasing reaction against big global brands stems from the sense of personal meaning that people seek as consumers.”

Not only do employees want their work to make a meaningful contribution, but customers are also starting to scrutinize companies more critically. A gasoline company can no longer just provide fuel; it must be a key participant in environmental and conservation issues. McDonalds had to change its operations after bad publicity about the impact of fast foods on health. Incidents like this have made customers more aware of their power. Half of those who responded to a British bank’s survey said they had boycotted a business within the last year because of perceived ethical violations. The Internet has made it much easier to organize boycotts by directing messages to targeted audiences. More companies are struggling to find new ways of doing things as they realize that the approaches they used in the ’80s and ’90s no longer work.

Finding New Ways

At the executive level, more CEOs say they are devoting more time to image management and regulatory demands. One oil executive said his company’s main business was managing political relationships, not drilling for oil. Other executives complain that old ways of shaping employee behavior, such as organizational restructuring, process re-engineering, goal incentives and hiring new executives, no longer motivate the workforce.

“One Australian executive described to me how shocked people from his American parent company had been when he told them that to get people to come to business meetings they had to serve beer.”

A 2003 Gallup poll found that overall only 27% of workers said they were “engaged” in their work. In Great Britain, only 19% of people found their work satisfying; in Germany 12%; in Singapore 6%; and in France 12%. In the U.S., a Harris survey of 23,000 workers found that 20% felt “enthusiastic” about their work, 22% felt valued and 20% felt their companies honored their stated values.

“In 21st-century organizations, the key to raising levels of commitment will be to create an authentic sense of meaning.”

Since people spend about 50% of their lives working, their quest for meaningful employment is not surprising. Keeping people in jobs that offer paychecks but no larger purpose is getting more difficult. To complicate matters, executives often develop inaccurate impressions of employee concerns and morale, particularly since workers tend to disguise their true feelings about their jobs. Fear and ambition drive many workers, but studies indicate that employees have begun to wear a “psychological uniform” that disguises their cynicism, staleness, “change fatigue,” resentment and belief that life should mean more than just working. More workers find their superiors are pushing them to meet increasingly higher growth targets with no end in sight.

“At best, engagement levels are stuck at disappointingly low levels, despite all that organizations have done in an effort to inspire and motivate people.”

For their own survival and peace of mind, people try to create meaning and to frame their activities in a larger context. Noted psychoanalyst Victor Frankl, writing about the psychological importance of meaning, said human beings want to know why they exist. Psychologist Abraham Maslow advanced Frankl’s work by placing self-actualization near the top of his hierarchy of human needs. In Eastern cultures, the Sikh religion fosters communal belonging and distinctiveness. Historically, Sikhs are bold, courageous and willing to act on new ideas – all attitudes that help create meaning.

“Hence, career commitment is replaced by career ambivalence, at best – career apathy, at worst.”

People experience “meaning” when they see that their activities are linked to something purposeful. This affects brain chemistry. When a person creates a meaningful association, a chemical reaction links neurons in different parts of the brain. These new pathways form fresh concepts or put events in context. Building these connections adds to the individual’s sense of significance. Linking your personal goals to helping society improve is very powerful, particularly when you figure out how to have a positive impact. Employers can nurture this process by helping workers connect their personal sense of meaning to the company’s activities. This is a subjective process, so people have to make many of these connections themselves, perhaps with a leader’s help. The result is a larger sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Input vs. Output

Maintaining a balance between work and life is a major determinant of job satisfaction, but an increasing number of workers believe they have put more time and commitment into their jobs than they have received in wages or appreciation. Even when corporate productivity and profitability increase, workers rarely receive a direct personal benefit.

“A major reason behind the ubiquitous sense of work-life imbalance is that people don’t really know what they want.”

People tend to bracket their work lives as separate from their personal lives because they derive meaning from their personal time that is largely absent at work. Work creates stress. Levels of tension are even higher at companies where people have few opportunities for self-expression, individuality or purpose. The opposite is true at companies such as Genentech, which emphasize a good work-life balance. The firm allows people to work on projects that interest them, and provides day care and paid sabbaticals.

“The creation of meaning is all about how people frame things and contextualize their activities.”

In companies where employees share a sense of meaning, managers tend to be less controlling and competitive, and more self-aware and collaborative. This makes staffers more accountable, energized, innovative and willing to take responsibility. Creative leaders can transform their organizations in this direction. Such leaders, like Steve Jobs of Apple, know their company’s DNA and environment. They possess economic, technological, political, social and demographic foresight. They understand what drives their firm and their employees’ efforts.

“While many believe that earning more money will improve the quality of their life, the reality is that once people in the U.S. and the U.K. earn over the threshold of £12,000 ($25,000), there is virtually no relationship between their salary and their happiness.”

To enlighten employees about your company’s meaning, undertake “inside-out” branding, sending employees the branding messages you would generally direct to customers. This approach makes employees, not an ad agency, responsible for building the brand. Virgin Airlines is very adept at inside-out branding. Its employees are its biggest advocates on and off the job. Branding from the inside out can help your company develop a distinct identity and live its values. Use it to reorient staffers and involve them more emotionally with your customers.

New Approaches

Companies can create meaning by using innovative organizational structures. Take these firms, for example:

  • Semco – This Brazilian builder of ship parts reorganized when it passed into the hands of its founder’s 21-year-old son. He fired many senior managers, eliminated job descriptions and business cards, and told people to organize themselves into self-managed teams to pursue value-adding activities. Since 1988, revenues have increased “tenfold.”
  • W.L. Gore – The manufacturer of Gore-Tex encourages workers to pursue projects they enjoy and to follow colleagues whom they think have the best ideas. Worldwide surveys consistently rank it as one of the best places to work.
  • Whitbread – This U.K. brewer revamped its structure and culture. Among other steps, it began fostering workers’ individual talents. Within two years, its share price doubled.
  • Diageo – The world’s largest manufacturer of branded liquor (including Smirnoff, Johnny Walker and Guinness), launched a mentoring program to create “world-class leadership.” Some 5,000 executives took a two-day seminar to become better managers and team members. The classes emphasized coaching, including observing and understanding performance, giving feedback and suggesting change.
  • Southwest Airlines – The company built its reputation for service by cultivating a fun-loving, familial, egalitarian culture. It engenders employee loyalty by avoiding layoffs, and offering profit-sharing and stock-purchase programs. It has a history of profitability and the industry’s best safety record.

The Importance of Belonging

The lack of a sense of belonging is the greatest predictor of employee depression, according to a 1999 University of Michigan study. Depressed staffers make mistakes and miss work. In fact, depression costs billions of dollars a year in lost productivity. In the Western world, people traditionally derived a sense of belonging from their families, religions and community lives. But as those societal ties have weakened, people have come to base more of their personal relationships around their work. When the workplace fails to provide bonding or meaning, the result is stress, turnover, absenteeism, poor performance, detachment, weak morale, pressure to conform, and a lack of trust between workers and management.

“The cliché that money can’t buy happiness seems to be true.”

To create a sense of belonging, companies should welcome newcomers since they reinvigorate long-time employees. Corporations also should encourage strong collegial relationships, inspire loyalty by promoting from within and raise their culture’s level of inspiration, innovation and creativity. Firms should openly communicate about the way their values translate into business practices.

Linking Money and Happiness

In the search for individual meaning at work, many employees confuse bigger salaries with greater happiness. However, studies show that simply earning more money does not increase employees’ level of happiness. People commonly pursue careers they believe will make them happy, only to find that once they achieve their career goals, they are not actually happier. Often society’s prevailing norms define career goals and success, not the individual. This undue pressure to meet a standard of happiness defined by other people just creates a sense of failure and more stress.

“I used to think culture was an important part of the game. I now realize it is the whole game.” [–Former IBM CEO Lou Gerstner]

Modern society has many valid definitions of “success,” ranging from earning wealth to exercising regularly and losing weight to being well-read and having lots of friends. These confusing, multiple goals can jeopardize a person’s work-life balance. To break this cycle, people can seek outside help to determine what would make them happy, to provide a sense of fulfillment outside of work and to foster change, if change is necessary.

About the Author

Gurnek Bains is a founder of a corporate psychology consultancy with offices in London, Sydney, New York, Hong Kong, Edinburgh and Düsseldorf. He has been a senior corporate adviser on cultural and personnel issues for 20 years.

Summary

The Basics of Performance Coaching

In sports and other areas, a coach helps individuals fulfill their potential so they can perform at their best. Coaching focuses on learning, not teaching, and covers “planning, problem solving, reviewing” and “skill development.” Just as a baby discovers how to walk independently, a coaching subject (called a “coachee”) learns to grow and achieve through self-actualization. Coaches are not necessarily experts in any particular field of business, but they must be experts in coaching itself, including its customs and methods.

“Good coaching is a skill, an art perhaps, that requires a depth of understanding and plenty of practice if it is to deliver its astonishing potential.”

A professional coach sets out to maximize each subject’s sense of personal potential to create a path to improved performance. A coach helps people learn to believe in themselves without reservation. Coaches don’t instruct as much as they treat people with humane concern to help them make the most of their innate capabilities. When managers coach their subordinates, they must adopt a different, more nurturing “communication style” than the usual in-the-office approach. Most managers wield authority somewhere on the spectrum between “dictators” and “persuaders,” but coaching works on a different scale. When acting as coaches, managers should ask questions that enable their subordinates to understand the tasks at hand more fully. Coaches help people consider pivotal issues and discover answers that can guide their future actions.

“Adopting a coaching ethos requires commitment, practice and some time before it flows naturally.”

If you are a manager, how do you know when to don your coaching hat? Look for an opportunity when a subordinate needs to learn something meaningful, when you both have time and when the quality of the result is particularly important. Today, employees expect – and may demand – more control over their own activities. With such increased involvement comes deeper responsibility. Coaching adapts well to this new paradigm by helping people enhance their performance, which makes them better able to take on added duties and accountability.

Awareness and Responsibility

Effective coaching works to increase people’s awareness and their “focused attention, concentration and clarity.” Awareness implies the ability and self-perception to separate the trivial from the critical. Great athletic coaches help their players become more physically aware so their bodies perform better. Superior business coaches help subjects build “mental and people awareness,” so they become more attuned and learn to direct their efforts where they are most relevant.

“The greatest barrier is the inability to give up what you have done before.”

Coaches must organize their professional methods to encourage heightened mental states, such as perceptiveness and responsibility. The coach is a facilitator and “awareness raiser,” not an instructor or problem solver. The ideal coach is “patient, detached, supportive, interested, [a] good listener, perceptive, aware, self-aware, attentive” and “retentive.” Yet, “technical expertise, knowledge, experience, credibility” and “authority” are less important. The coach doesn’t worry as much about teaching best practices as about enhancing each person’s potential to excel.

The Right Questions Lead to Viable Answers

Coaches help clients develop their capacities primarily by asking directed questions. To illustrate, consider the popular sports dictum: “Always keep your eye on the ball.” How can a baseball coach use this advice to help a player grow? Asking “Are you watching the ball?” will put a player on the defensive. “Why aren’t you watching the ball?” will increase that defensiveness. Now consider these alternatives: “Which way is the ball spinning as it comes toward you?” “Does it spin faster or slower after it bounces?” “How far is it from your opponent when you first see which way it is spinning?” Answering such coaching questions forces a ballplayer to focus on the ball. Useful queries are not judgmental; they are structured so that answering them creates a valuable “feedback loop” the coach can use to build the player’s accomplishments.

“Coaches are increasingly replacing or, at least, enhancing their old instructional style by focusing more on the person than the technique, on the potential rather than on the mistake.”

Coaches in the business world can use parallel probing questions: “What is the most difficult business situation for you?” “How will the price increase affect customers?” “What is your team’s biggest challenge?” Specific questions prompt specific responses. The coach doesn’t need the information in the answers. To the coach, the important thing about such questions is that they make respondents think about issues that matter, so that they become more aware and responsible. When you are coaching someone, form your questions around the words “what, when, who, how much” and “how many.” Ask about areas that interest the person you’re coaching. Heed the answers closely. Avoid leading questions, like, “Why on Earth did you do that?” As you coach, govern your tone of voice and body language. Focus on “listening, hearing, watching and understanding.”

The “GROW Formula”

Make your initial questions broad and then zero in on details. Think of looking at something normally, and then seeing it through a magnifying glass, and then through a microscope, gaining greater definition with each view. Coaching is the same. The coach must probe intently, using such questions as, “What would the consequences be?” “What criteria are you using?” “Imagine having a dialogue with the wisest person you know. What would he or she tell you to do?” Or, “What advice would you give a colleague in your situation?”

“We tend to get what we focus on. If we fear failure, we are focused on failure and that is what we get.”

To put your questions in the right sequence, use the GROWformula:

  • Goal setting” – “What do you hope to accomplish?” is a typical goal-directed query. Contrast between “end goals,” like “I want to be sales director,” and “performance goals,” such as “I want to sell 100 widgets.” A person can control a performance goal, but not an end goal. Make goals “SMART” (“specific, measurable, agreed, realistic” and “time-phased”); “PURE” (“positively stated, understood, relevant” and “ethical”); and “CLEAR” (“challenging, legal, environmentally sound, appropriate” and “recorded”).
  • Reality checking” – Goals that ignore present situations are unrealistic. People must be objective about what they want to accomplish. To provide a worthwhile reality-check, ask, “How much of this situation…is within your control?” Or, “What action have you taken?” Follow up by asking, “What were the effects of the action?” Many times, such probing questions can lead a person to a “Eureka!” moment.
  • “Options” – Explore many potential tactics. Don’t let people arbitrarily limit their choices. Have them create lists of options and examine the pros and cons of each one.
  • “What is to be done?” – This question, along with “When?” and “By whom?” as well as, “Do you have the will to do it?” comes up in the final stage of coaching, when the coach and subject “convert a discussion into a decision.” As coach, you might ask, “What are you going to do?” But, don’t ask, “What could you do?” That is too indecisive. Other good questions at this stage include: “When are you going to do it?” “Will this action meet your goal?” “What obstacles might you encounter?” And, “what other considerations exist?” The point is to have people commit to action. Ask them to rate, from “one to 10,” their degree of certitude about implementing the needed step. Expect inaction regarding any ratings below eight.

“Emotional intelligence is twice as important as mental acuity for success in the workplace.”

The “What is to be done?” step concludes the “coaching cycle.” Do not set performance bars for your coaching subjects. That is their job. The standards they set on their own invariably will be more ambitious than the standards you might suggest.

Effective coaching will raise people’s awareness, and help them learn, enjoy their achievements, and build responsibility and a drive to improve. Learning and enjoyment are essential components of higher accomplishment.

“The worst feedback is personal and judgmental; the most effective is subjective and descriptive.”

Active learning may also involve establishing “conscious competence,” where a coach provides continuous, nonjudgmental monitoring of a person’s actions. This creates an “input-feedback loop” to foster learning and self-actualization. For example, a manager might provide useful interrogatory feedback about an employee’s report by asking: “What is the essential purpose of your report?” “To what extent do you think this draft achieves that?” And, “what are the other points you feel need to be emphasized?” Such questions prompt people to be self-reliant and to review their own work objectively and meaningfully.

“Praise…tends to be sparingly offered and hungrily received in the workplace, where criticism abounds.”

Coaches also help people prepare for challenges. Using a kind of “anticipatory” planning called “feedforward,” a baseball pitching coach might tell a young player, “On the next pitch, I am going to ask you which part of the pitching movement feels the least comfortable to you.” This approach helps the trainee heed specific aspects of a future event and, thus, learn more from it. A business coach’s feedforward questions could include “What do you think the obstacles might be to achieving your goal?” or “Which element of this task bothers you the most?”

“As we become more self-aware, we are able to be more aware of others.”

You can extend these one-on-one coaching methods to work with teams of employees. First, a team must establish clear goals, ground rules and meeting schedules. Having the team members spend social or recreational time together, perhaps participating in sporting activities, can also help. Develop “buddy systems” so individuals can resolve minor issues outside of team meetings.

Barriers and Benefits

Some people do not like anything different, new or nontraditional, such as coaching. Indeed, many coaches’ most common concern is, “How do I coach resistant people?”

“Blame evokes defensiveness – defensiveness reduces awareness.”

As an advocate for coaching in your company, you might encounter these objections – and use these responses:

  • “Our company culture is against this kind of approach” – The traditionalist’s lament: “We never had coaching here before. Why should we need it now?” Well, until the 1980s, employees never had personal computers either. Organizations that culturally resist change cannot survive; change is today’s most pressing business constant.
  • “It’s just a new management gimmick” – Explain that anything that really optimizes performance is not a gimmick.
  • “I don’t have time to coach” – If you are so pressed for time, your direct reports aren’t giving you the support you need. Coach them so they can do more in the future.
  • “Our people want to be told what to do” – If so, your employees are in a dangerous rut. Coaching can help pull them out of it.
  • “People here will think I have gone nuts” – This will stop once performance improves.
  • “I won’t know what questions to ask” – Use the GROW formula, it will help.
  • “Why should I change things?” – Don’t you want better performance?

“So often it is when we let go of the need for control that we gain control.”

Coaching offers numerous organizational advantages, including these benefits:

  • “Improved performance and staff development” – Help people reach their goals.
  • “Improved learning” – Coaching puts learning into overdrive.
  • “Improved quality of life for individuals” – People who perform better are happier.
  • “More time for managers” – Coached employees will accept more responsibility.
  • “Better use of people, skills and resources” – Coaching will reveal just how capable your people are.
  • “Faster and more effective emergency response” – People who are afraid to accept responsibility tend to sit on their hands during crises, but responsible people act.
  • “Increased adaptability to change” – Companies with a “listening, learning, coaching culture” will be able to adapt best to changing business circumstances.
  • “Greater motivated staff” – Companies are now moving away from the old command-and-control paradigm to a new coaching style of management. The carrot-and-stick approach doesn’t work with today’s employees. Coaching motivates people to achieve more and helps prepare new leaders.
  • “Valuable life skill” – As coaching becomes more accepted, employers will increasingly recruit executives who can coach others effectively.

“You can make a man run, but you can’t make him run fast.”

Coaching has a bright future. Expect to see a greater emphasis on “transpersonal coaching,” which involves the spiritual side of life and subconscious, psychological fulfillment. This addresses modern life’s challenges, since the daily routine can seem to lack meaning and purpose. Coaches with compassion and emotional intelligence can help people adapt to stress. Indeed, coaches are “midwives at the birth of a new social order.” Coaches don’t have all the answers, by any means, but they fill an important role by helping individuals discover answers that work for them.

About the Author

John Whitmore is a legendary coach. His classic book on coaching has sold more than half a million copies in 22 languages. Whitmore started out as a professional racecar driver. His racing team won numerous prestigious championships in the 1960s.

Take Aways

  • Coaches help people improve their professional performance and their lives.
  • Those who receive coaching (“coachees”) experience self-actualization, which develops their skills and talents.
  • Coaching builds awareness and helps people become more responsible.
  • Effective coaches do not have to be specialists in the business fields where they coach. However, they do need to be expert coaches.
  • Managers must adopt nontraditional relationship styles when they coach their team.
  • Coach your employees when you have time, when they need to learn and when quality results are critical to your work.
  • Coaches do not teach. They help others learn through probing questions.
  • Coaches who ask such questions are not searching for information they can use to solve others’ problems; instead, they are urging respondents to think about issues.
  • Structure your questions to follow the “GROW formula” – inquire about “Goals,” check “Reality,” list “Options” and ask, “What is to be done, When [and] by Whom?”
  • As coaching becomes increasingly common, it will focus more on spiritual issues.

Book: “The Myth of Normal” by Gabor Maté

“The Myth of Normal” is a book by Gabor Maté that challenges the concept of “normal” as it relates to human behavior and mental health. Here are some key takeaways from the book:

  1. There is no such thing as a “normal” human being: The author argues that the idea of a “normal” human being is a myth, as every individual is unique and experiences a wide range of emotions and behaviors throughout their life.

  2. Society’s definitions of normal can be harmful: When individuals don’t fit into society’s narrow definitions of normal, they can be stigmatized, ostracized, and even punished. This can lead to feelings of shame, isolation, and low self-esteem.

  3. Mental illness is not a personal failing: The author argues that mental illness is not a personal failing, but rather a result of complex interactions between genetics, environment, and life experiences.

  4. Trauma is a common factor in many mental illnesses: The author suggests that trauma, both physical and emotional, is a common factor in many mental illnesses, including addiction, depression, and anxiety.

  5. Compassion is key: The author emphasizes the importance of compassion, both for oneself and for others, in promoting mental health and well-being. Rather than judging and stigmatizing individuals who don’t fit into society’s narrow definitions of normal, we should strive to understand and support them.

  6. Authenticity is valuable: The author suggests that individuals who are true to themselves and their experiences, even if they don’t fit into society’s definitions of normal, are more likely to experience a sense of fulfillment and well-being than those who try to conform to societal expectations.

  7. The current mental health system is flawed: The author argues that the current mental health system is flawed, as it often focuses on treating symptoms rather than addressing underlying causes. He suggests that a more holistic approach, which considers the impact of trauma, environment, and social factors, is needed to promote true healing.

Overall, “The Myth of Normal” challenges the idea that there is a single “normal” way to be human and highlights the importance of compassion, authenticity, and a holistic approach to mental health.